Getting divorced is rarely an event that only affects the two people who are ending their marriage. There may be countless people touched by such an event, including your family members, kids and network of friends.
In other words, you are not going through this difficult time alone. Not only do you have your loved ones by your side, you also have the people dedicated to helping you get through the legal aspects of divorce. For people going through mediation, this will include a mediator. A mediator can help you and your soon-to-be ex get through a divorce in a few different ways.
- They can keep things moving. Mediators are neutral third parties who have the primary goal of finding solutions. This motivation helps to keep discussions productive and active. Further, a mediator can keep parties from dwelling on an insignificant or irresolvable issue so that the process can continue moving forward.
- They can offer creative solutions. Mediators often see a range of cases involving different people with different issues to resolve. Between this experience and a mediator's training, he or she can be well positioned to offer solutions you may not have considered yourselves.
- They can help keep discussions fair and balanced. Without the help of a mediator, the more vocal or powerful party may end up taking control over any discussions. However, a mediator will keep both parties from interrupting each other, monopolizing the session or otherwise taking over the negotiations.
With these points in mind, we urge you to take seriously the option to mediate the issues of your divorce. While you will be an active participant in this process, you don't have to figure it all out on your own.
You can also have the guidance and support of your attorney to help you deal with any issues that may arise when negotiating, submitting and enforcing the terms of your divorce settlement. With a mediator and your attorney as part of your divorce, you can be confident that you are working toward a fair, satisfactory resolution that you deserve.