Parents who are involved in a highly contentious and bitter divorce often say and do things they wouldn't say or do under normal circumstances. After all, divorce is painful and it can make people angry, scared and combative.
Exchanging custody of your children can be an incredibly complicated and stressful process for parents who do not get along with each other. It's difficult enough to say goodbye to your children or see them sad to leave the other parent; having any sort of interaction with someone you hate or distrust only makes the situation worse.
There is no doubt that divorce takes a toll on kids. No matter how old they are or how much they understand about their parents' decision, children can struggle enormously to come to terms with the divorce. The situation can be especially painful for children of parents who are engaged in a contentious or high-conflict divorce.