Disputes over child custody are often painful and contentious for New Jersey parents. In many cases, parents are fighting to protect and maximize their time with their kids, which means the stakes of these arguments are unquestionably high.
This can make it particularly upsetting to learn that a custody order is not what you wanted or expected. You might find yourself feeling lost, scared and hopeless. Under these circumstances, you might find it tempting to make the following mistakes.
Mistake #1: Assuming there is nothing you can do
Do not assume that all hope is lost because a custody dispute did not go your way. You can take steps to improve your situation and seek a modification in the future. You could also appeal a custody ruling if you believe a judge made an error when making his or her decision. You can also seek support in trying to make the most out of the current situation.
Mistake #2: Violating a court order
Perhaps the biggest mistake you can make if you disagree with a custody order is to violate it. Going against court orders can have severe consequences, including loss of parental rights and criminal charges.
Mistake #3: Misplacing blame
Placing all the blame for an undesirable custody order on your kids, your ex or even yourself is generally not a good idea. Misplacing blame can strain or destroy relationships, which can be especially hurtful when it is the relationship with your child.
Talk to an attorney to avoid these and other mistakes
The fact is that custody arrangements can be in place for decades, and giving up or making unwise decisions on a whim can have both immediate and long-term consequences for you and your family.
Whether you are currently in a fight over child custody or you are trying to adjust to an arrangement you don't like, knowing your legal rights and options can be crucial in avoiding these and other mistakes.